It’s ok to accept change.

One of my favorite things about life is that no matter how old you are, where you are in the world, or what situation you are in, someone in the world loves you. I love this so much because it means that even though I grow up and I move on to new chapters in my life that there will always be someone who loves me.

I was recently scrolling through twitter today when one of my friends from college tweeted something that caught my eye. She tweeted, “Some of us have to grow up sometimes and so if I have to I’m gonna leave you behind.” I don’t know why, but these words mesmerized me. There was something about the way the words were creatively placed together that I felt peace. It reminded me that leaving people behind when we move on in our lives is ok.

Before and during my first few months of college, I had a really hard time with this. I was trying to balance my relationships with friends from home and new friends at school that soon I became sad. I wondered if I was doing something wrong or if I was being a bad friend until I read somewhere that sometimes people aren’t in our lives during our next chapter because God knows they’re not meant to be in your life at the moment. He brings people into your life that He knows are supposed to be there. For some reason, this really comforted me.

Since then I have been better at accepting the changes in my life because I started to put more of my trust into God. Although accepting changes in your life doesn’t have to be a religious thing, it can be just a lesson that you need to learn.

People change, and so do you.

So don’t worry if you start to lose touch with someone, instead look at the people who are still in your life. Put your love and energy into those relationships, and look for the opportunity to start a new relationship. As one door closes, another one opens. It’s quite amazing how much life can surprise you. More importantly, it’s amazing how much God can surprise you.

But no matter where you are in life, someone loves you. Some breathing human being on this planet loves you. You mean something to this world; don’t let the people leaving your life get you down, instead rejoice for all of the love you have!

So go out and thank the people you love, and let them know how much you care!

With love and hope,
Julia

There is no substitute for love.

Everyone yearns for the feeling to fix a broken heart, but a band aid won’t do. A broken heart hurts, it absorbs all of your energy leaving you tired and upset. A broken heart is one of the worst experiences anyone can go through, and sadly many people are effected by a broken heart. But what fixes a broken heart?

The answer is time and love.

For a long time I have suffered from a broken heart. A broken heart hurts so much that for the longest time I tried to fix the holes and gaps in my heart where love did not exist. The one way I tried to fix the holes in my heart were with relationships with guys. For months in college I became obsessed with the idea that I could meet new people and potentially meet the love of my life, but the one thing I did not realize while doing this was that love cannot be found, love just happens and it’s always a fantastic surprise.

The moral of my experience is that no matter how many dates I went on or how many guys I talked to I never found that “love” that I wanted to fill my holes and gaps in my heart. Instead I realized that there was already love surrounding me, but I refused to see it. Love surrounds us through our friends, our family, and most importantly God.

Love is not artificial; love is not the alcohol you consume, the drugs you use, the number of people you date or the number of people who you are friends with. Love is the things you love to do, the people you love, and the people who love you.

Most importantly, there is no substitute for love.

With love and hope,

Julia